Building Good Relationships
Building good relationships is possibly one of the most challenging things we do in life. However, developing those relationships plays a significant role in our personal, business and financial success. Mastering these steps will reward you beyond your expectations.
1) Stop and Listen: The most challenging but essential step. We all want someone to talk to, to listen to us. Yet, most of us just talk, talk and talk. We don’t stop and listen to others, nor do they to us. Not listening has disastrous consequences in our lives.
2) Include, Involve: Everyone wants to be included, to help, to have our opinions heard, and to contribute to the outcome. Including and involving others can be complicated, but the results are worth it. Many people walk around with an emptiness inside because they’re left out, knowing they can contribute if allowed in. At the same time, they must include those they are shutting out. It works both ways.
3) Coach And Be Coached: We all have something we would like to change, but we need a coach to help make changes. Allowing someone who sees your potential to coach you enables you to reach and meet that potential.
We all have strengths and weaknesses. As we allow someone to coach us, we should use our powers to coach others. Helping people while being helped only adds to your ability and increases your potential.
4) Challenge & Inspire: People want to be challenged and inspired to improve. Many have low self-esteem, feel rejected, and have financial and family concerns that we don’t know of. Take the time to uplift them, make them feel hopeful, and show them that you have faith and belief in them. They will rise to the level of your expectations.
Relationships …. Your Future Depends On Them
A duck hunter, proud of his marksmanship, invited a friend to witness his skill. After a long wait in the blind, a duck flew by. “Watch this,” whispered the hunter as he took aim and fired.
As he lowered his rifle, the duck flew serenely on. “That, my friend, is a miracle you are witnessing……. There flies a dead duck.”
We use a lot of words in our language. Many of them have different meanings in today’s world. This week I found myself wondering about the origins of a word we all use, some of us more frequently than others. The term has a particularly macabre and bloody history.
Deadline: The latest time, day or date by which something must be completed or submitted.
Modern Usage: “The deadline for submissions is February 5th.”
The word ‘deadline’ has its origins in the American Civil War. First recorded around 1864. In times of conflict, a line or second wall was built around prisons. Guards were told to shoot and kill any prisoner who might touch, fall upon, pass over, under or across the deadline’. The Dead Line could be a shallow trench around a group of prisoners in an open field on the battlefield. Again, guards were given orders to kill prisoners who accidentally or intentionally set so much as a toe over the line.
“There is no subject so old that something new cannot be said about it.”
— Theodore Dostoevski
“I’m worried about you always being at the bottom of your class,” said the father to his son.
“Don’t worry, Dad,” he replied. “They still teach the same thing at both ends.”
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ARIES Mar. 21-Apr. 19: When negotiating, be tenacious but not overbearing. Slowly chipping away at your opponent’s confidence and position will bring victory.
TAURUS Apr. 20-May 20: If you lighten up and use a little humour, others will respond with a more positive attitude to you.
GEMINI May 21-June 20: If someone hurts your feelings, don’t sit in a corner and sulk. Speak up. They may not be aware of your hurt.
CANCER June 21-July 22: Your accomplishments will depend on your mood. If you think it will be hard, it will be, and vice versa.
LEO July 23-Aug 22: Keep your emotions in check. Some situations need you to be calm, relaxed and in control, no matter what.
VIRGO Aug. 23-Sept. 22: Exercise your best judgment in financial matters. You could be vulnerable to mishaps if care is not taken.
LIBRA Sept. 23-Oct. 22: Let diplomacy and tolerance be your watchwords when dealing with others. And thoughtfulness in dealing with the boss.
SCORPIO Oct. 23-Nov. 21: A dispute with your partner could get out of hand. In the heat of the moment, let love guide your words.
SAGITTARIUS Nov. 22-Dec. 21: If you agree to help someone, do it without resentment. An amicable manner will avoid unpleasant working conditions.
CAPRICORN Dec. 22-Jan. 19: If an unreasonable request is asked of you, don’t make a big deal of it. Tret it with humour.
AQUARIUS Jan. 20-Feb. 18: Don’t let your curiosity get the better of you. It might be fun but could intrude on another person’s privacy.
PISCES Feb. 19-Mar. 20: It’s time to build back bridges. Renew old friendships, and open up the lines of communication. Make some new memories.
At the Ladies Aid Society meeting, many items were auctioned off. Every member brought an item they no longer needed. Many members brought their husbands.
Upon entering the little country store, the stranger noticed a sign saying “DANGER! BEWARE OF DOG!” posted on the glass door. Inside he saw a harmless old hound dog asleep on the floor beside the cash register. He asked the store manager, “Is THAT the dog folks are supposed to beware of?” “Yep, that’s him,” he replied. The stranger couldn’t help but be amused. “That certainly doesn’t look like a dangerous dog to me. So why in the world would you post that sign?” “Because,” the owner replied, “before I posted that sign, people kept tripping over him.”
While proudly showing off his new fraternity house to friends, a college student led the way into the den. “What is the big brass gong and hammer for?” one of his friends asked. “That’s the talking clock,” the student replied with a grin. “Let me show you how it works!” And with that, he gave the gong an ear-shattering pound with the hammer. Suddenly someone screamed from the other side of the wall, “KNOCK IT OFF, YOU IDIOT! IT’S 2 AM!”
The most difficult times for most of us are the ones we give ourselves.